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Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?
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| 6 July 2012
| Sandra Howard
Posted on 07/06/2012 8:04:05 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway
...Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?...Which one?
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posted on
07/06/2012 8:35:27 PM PDT
by
FReepaholic
(Stupidity is not a crime, so you're free to go.)
To: nickcarraway
Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?
Depends. Is she Ava Gardner?
To: nickcarraway
Nope, never stopped loving her...I just can’t get over all the betrayals. ALL the betrayals.
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posted on
07/06/2012 8:40:45 PM PDT
by
gilor
(Pull the wool over your own eyes!)
To: ottbmare
That’s what I have witnessed, a lot. Sometimes there is really poison but often it is a dark phase of life that would pass if people stayed true to their love or a fling that soon fizzles out but too late.
People get unrealistic expectations and think the grass is greener only to find out it was an illusion. Security comes from family ties and love.
To: nickcarraway
Some people think too much
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posted on
07/06/2012 8:54:53 PM PDT
by
InvisibleChurch
( if you love, you will not condemn, and if you condemn, you cannot love)
To: nickcarraway
FRREEEEEEDOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmm,,,,,,
To: redangus
Wow, sounds like you two were soul mates. This does happen and it happened to you. A man or woman really only has room for one true love at any one time. Men are monogamous however and can have one true love and the others, physical play things. A good man commits and stays with just one woman out of sense of duty, but that’s not instinctive.
To: WestwardHo; nickcarraway; Secret Agent Man
I knew an attorney years ago who had been married a few times and told me he was never getting married again; he would just find a bitch he hated every three years and buy her a house...
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posted on
07/06/2012 8:57:23 PM PDT
by
One Name
(Go to the enemy's home court and smoke his ass.)
To: redangus
I don’t want to get too personal, redangus... but does your current wife know of your feelings and the letter? If she does... she must adore you. Not all women would be quite understanding of that particular situation. IMHO
To: nickcarraway
Heard these words of wisdom on the radio:
"My first wife died. My second wife ... wouldn't
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:06:51 PM PDT
by
ZOOKER
( Exploring the fine line between cynicism and outright depression)
To: nickcarraway
I wish I could say otherwise, but I have been married four times and two of my former husbands, the publicist David Wynne-Morgan and advertising executive Nigel Grandfield, had ex-wives. Having been a second wife twice over, it is a huge relief to me that my present husband, Michael Howard to whom I have been happily wed for 37 years had never before been married.
Mr. Howard is quite a gambler!
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:08:12 PM PDT
by
iowamark
To: nickcarraway
I married rather late in life (54). I watched my friends go thru many marriages and affairs, break-ups, re-groupings and divorces as I happily went through my life. I watches, as a single happy guy as they went thru these painful occurences. Guys slept at my place - Wives told me their stories over tearful hand-holdings. I saw how it affected families and children - I wanted nothing to do with that part of human nature.
Yeah...there were a few long-term happy marriages. But these were the rare exception.
I truly understand why 1st marriages are often referred to as "Trainer Marriages."
Finally I decided that enough was enough and got married.
My Dear Wife had been married very briefly, 1.5 yrs, previous. She was/is a successful person in her own right and has no need of financial support. She, WE, also have a 16 yr old Son from her 1st marriage. Good kid - still looking for the instruction manual on raising these things. (Yeah, I know - the Bible. Got it)
However, I do still, after 9 yrs, occasionally refer to her as my "First Wife"...quickly explained as my "#1 Wife."
..freedom is wonderful thing...I know...I have many pleasant memories of it.
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:11:53 PM PDT
by
Tainan
(Cogito, ergo conservatus sum)
To: nickcarraway
For me the answer is no but my case is a little different. My first wife was murdered right before she was to have our first child 45 years ago in Louisville, KY. Right now I am on my fifth marriage and it is more for convenience than anything else. The two songs I relate to most are Bob Seger’s “Against the Wind” and Meatloaf’s “Two Out of Three Ain’t Bad”
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:16:41 PM PDT
by
Datom
To: nickcarraway
My first wife is the only woman I ever loved or wanted to love. Everything since has just been grating noise. I haven’t seen her in 30 years but we speak and write frequently. She’s my best friend and I can’t imagine life without her.
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:19:23 PM PDT
by
davius
(You can roll manure in powdered sugar but that don't make it a jelly doughnut.)
To: nickcarraway
You could say the same thing about ‘puppy love’ and ‘first love’
Get over it already...lol
(spoken as the second wife :>)... 29 years
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:21:16 PM PDT
by
libertarian27
(Check my profile page for the FReeper Online Cookbook 2011)
To: Datom
“My first wife was murdered right before she was to have our first child 45 years ago in Louisville, KY.”
Gees, Louise. I am so sorry.
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:21:37 PM PDT
by
combat_boots
(The Lion of Judah cometh. Hallelujah. Gloria Patri, Filio et Spiritui Sancto.)
To: cpdiii
It is often the case that we men are in love with the projection we have made upon a gal who caught our fancy. The chemistry is complicated by the nature of human beings. There are two types of humans (male or female), conscious and unconscious. We men tend to be more of the unconscious variety, but we tend to wake up as the little boy confronts reality in a close relationship with 'not mom'. Women tend to be of the unconscious variety IF they are more of the Choleric type, take charge selectors of a mate (read more directed by their animus than their anima). There are two types: conscious and unconscious; and four personality categories: choleric, melancholic, phlegmatic, sanguine.
The great love of my life was an unconscious choleric and the 24 years we spent together could best be described as a power struggle. But I continue to love her unquestionably. What is sad is how many times a divorce tends to awaken and rectify many character flaws, yet the spouses will not 'take another look' at the 'improved other'. It's all very Jungian don'tchaknow.
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:23:32 PM PDT
by
MHGinTN
(Being deceived can be cured.)
To: MHGinTN
“It is often the case that we men are in love with the projection we have made upon a gal who caught our fancy.”
That was my take too. They can continue to love the idealized “vision” of their ex, when reality is very different.
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:36:24 PM PDT
by
M1903A1
("We shed all that is good and virtuous for that which is shoddy and sleazy... and call it progress")
To: nickcarraway
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:42:26 PM PDT
by
fish hawk
(Religion: Man's attempt to gain salvation or the approbation of God by his own works)
To: nickcarraway
The question should be: "Does a man ever stop hating his ex-wife?"
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posted on
07/06/2012 9:44:01 PM PDT
by
Hoodat
(“An unlimited power to tax involves, necessarily, a power to destroy.” - John Marshall)
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