Skip to comments.'Office Cougar' Jailed for Preying on Married Men
Posted on 06/17/2012 7:14:38 PM PDT by nickcarraway
A Cambridge graduate who described herself as the office cougar has been jailed for falsely claiming she was having affairs with her married male colleagues.
Software engineer Jeevani Wickramaratna, 44, spun a web of deceit, bombarding the men with sexually explicit messages, emailing their wives and even falsely claiming one man had HIV.
She was found guilty of sexual harassment and jailed for 26 weeks by District Judge David Parsons, who blasted her "complete fantasy world". He said: "They trusted you and you abused that trust and during the trial you repeated the wicked allegations you made against each one of them and it is eminently clear that you are completely incapable of telling the truth." Wickramaratna called herself a cougar, a term used to describe an older woman who pursues younger men.
She became infatuated with co-worker Paul Stokes after he emailed her offering her some of his birthday cake, and went on to besiege him with emails and Facebook messages, South Somerset Magistrates Court in Yeovil heard.
Christine Hart, prosecuting, said: "She claimed that Mr Stokes was having an affair with the office 'cougar', and many of the messages were sexually explicit and caused great distress to both him and his family.
"Wickramaratna then began sending him a series of messages saying she was setting him free and said she had told his family about their affair and that he loved her."
Further abusive Facebook messages were sent, including a false allegation that Mr Stokes had been diagnosed with HIV, all of which caused great humiliation.
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What a jerk. I’m glad the judge tossed her in jail and I feel sorry for the next victim that hires the witch.
Wickramaratna had a wicked mantra...
Not all that uncommon really.
Back when I was a foreman I and several of my counterparts signed off on firing a woman for similar behavior. We even had a fight on the shop floor that resulted from her crap. She was a disruption and she had to go.
I couldn’t figure it out. She was butt ugly.
But Laz would hit it.
But isn’t it preached that all female supervisors are the fairest, most level-headed, honest, and the other feel-good claptrap?
You know what they say about eating things you can’t pronounce.
I’d hit it ... with a shot of Raid.
It’s a wonder that the bosses didn’t fire every one of the men. That’s what they usually do.
Dunno about Laz, but I’d hit it... with a restraining order!
I have had a few and most were OK and a couple good.
There was one that was ruthless, conniving, duplicitious, malicious, and those were her good points. She was also one ugly, big, and obese. A nose job would help some.
She also lived in liberal la-la land preaching living green, sharing the wealth, domineering her stupid kid and her worthless jerk husband, changing rules and procedures on me daily and weekly, chewing me for any and everything no matter what, and screwing me on any job I applied for anywhere else in the univ. system.
She even mandated that I say nothing to people at all since I apparently disturbed people while they “worked”. Never mind that people blared radios and lived on phones all day.
I was driven almost to nervous breakdown. She had all management in her pocket since she was the all powerful network admin.
The GM was orginally friendly towards me but near the end he would avoid me.
Near the end, I got this formal reprimand of stack of papers a couple inches thick of every transgression I apparently committed. She played nice but no doubt she enjoyed trying to ruin me.
I was just a guy who was nice to people, kept my opinions to myself, tried to fill out every little new form, tripe/quadruple check everything, made mistakes like the others, and coud do no right no matter what others would come into the office and say many complimentary things about me and my work.
This wacko piece of work is still entrenched and protected from what I hear.
Wouldn’t a shot of Raid kill a nervous tick?
The best term I have heard about those types is psycho(female dog).
Worked with a few of them.
Best to leave them very well alone.
She developed a crush on a man ‘cause he offered her some of his birthday cake?
She developed a crush on a man ‘cause he offered her some of his birthday cake?
Its a wonder that the bosses didnt fire every one of the men. Thats what they usually do.
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I always like it when ‘they’ say “Women and Minorities make 10-25% less than their White Male counterparts”.
Well, being a businessman, wouldn’t I be foolish if I only hired White Males and not be able to put that .25 on the dollar in my pocket?
“Go sell crazy someplace else. We have all we need here already.”
I worked my way through college doing summers and full-time temp positions with a state agency. The top management of the division I was in was dominated by middle-aged women.
Several of us noticed an interesting dynamic from them:
If you were young and male, you could practically get away with murder.
If you were young and female (and especially if you were attractive), your career there would be short and viciously unpleasant—which I actually saw happen a couple of times.
If you are middle-aged and male you run the risk of being the ex-husband who divorced them or at best the bore they go home to. Neither works out too well for you career.
I went 110% percent to stay in the ever changing lines, rules, and policies and it made no difference.
At the time I was having some problems with my health affecting my energy and some other stuff. The answer wasn’t found until after I left a few months later and I did my best to make nice. But I should have (would have if @ 90% or better) realized that making nice with the office bully is impossible.
The only other real alternative I had wouldn’t have worked since she had piles of documentation (how much real not sure) about how poor a performer I was always at the ready to wave around. For a while sometimes it seemed that I had to second guess my own name. No matter what, there was always a fault and it was world ending.
Anyway that was a few years ago and while the employment situation isn’t that hot at least I work in a sane office with sane people who mind their own business. Before that I was doing a ton of IT contract work and enjoyed most of it.
I have one other theory about her behavior but it is on par with a conspiracy mindset but knowing how some PHBs are sore losers I would almost rule it credible. It involves a little matter at another state agency in which I won no question and cost a department some bucks to upgrade me and a few others.
You have an ex-manager long-gone of SCETV’s engineering department pegged pefectly.
The yo-yo in question now that you bring up was the same way.
A word to the wise: Never sleep with anyone that’s crazier than you are!
With apologies to small dogs everywhere.
That wouldn’t do it for you?
CRAZY Eyes! Yikes!
What? having a man offering me a piece of his B-day cake?
It depends on the man. ;)
As sad as this sounds,I’ve gotten crushes on men simply because they were nice to me.
Office Yeti, more like it.
I know 2 women who are capable of this type of thing.
Some people are very creative with their ability to lie.
Add in a touch of “crazy” and things get interesting real quick!
Why should that sound sad? That actually seems like a great reason. Better than most of the reasons.
Some people read a lot into things. She probably thought offering a piece of birthday cake was really a protestation of his love. Or something.
re: “A word to the wise: Never sleep with anyone thats crazier than you are!”
Good advice, MasterGunner01, but even better adivce would be: Never sleep with someone you’re not married to.
I think that would prevent 99% of this crap, but I do realize that’s not going to happen.
It’s usually just a nice gesture.
I once had a crush on a fellow congregant at my synagogue who was in his 60’s at the time. (That may seem odd,since most men that age usually aren’t the object of a crush).
At any rate he was very sweet to me and I fell hard.
I felt so stupid and silly.
It doesn’t appear that was the case here (that anyone slept with anyone at the office)
There are sickos out there who love to play weird mindgames - create drama.
This chicky seemed to get off on messing with marriages - trying to frame these men.
I had a female co-worker complain to me once (a large gathering of workers in a bar for a wake) that I didn’t understand how hard it was for a woman in our profession (largley dominated by men), and that other men at work were constantly trying to have sex with her.
I told her not to take it personal, its not because you are a woman...it is because you have a vagina.
I think the self evident nature of that statement escapes her to this day.
The problem with most guys is they can only think with their brains or Willy, but one at a time and not both. In cases of conflict or confusion, Willy generally wins. That has the unhappy habit of causing no end of troubles.
re: “In cases of conflict or confusion, Willy generally wins. That has the unhappy habit of causing no end of troubles.”
Boy, you got that right! Absolutely correct.
>> Wouldnt a shot of Raid kill a nervous tick?
No, I’m a NERVOUS tick, not a sanguine one. Therefore I take precautions.
I’d be wearing a respirator and hazmat suit... and standing BEHIND the Raid can when I “hit it”.
Look at the eyes. They tell the story. But Laz would hit it.
So you're advising me to be celibate....?
Ah, no. I’m advising you to choose your partner WISELY. LOL
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