Posted on 04/30/2012 11:18:37 AM PDT by Morgana
April 27, 2012 (LifeSiteNews.com) - When it comes to startling statistics, the hidden world of pornography consumption has them in spades.
For example, every second, $3,075.64 is being spent on porn, while 28,258 Internet users are viewing it. As of 2006 Big Porn was more lucrative than Google, Apple, Amazon, Ebay, Yahoo!, and Netflix combined.
But perhaps the most startling of all is the age demographic: the largest group of Internet pornography consumers is between 17 and 12 years old.
Therapists now say we’re only beginning to scratch the surface of the havoc wreaked on this “Generation XXX” as it freely surfs the Internet - where 30 percent of all traffic is dedicated to porn. They describe grade-schoolers dropping out of school to spend the day at the computer feeding their porn addiction, while their real-life budding sexuality, trained on hardcore porn, is warped away from real relationships and towards an ever-growing appetite of voyeurism and violence.
Child therapist John Woods described in a Daily Mail article on Thursday how “Jamie,” 13, found himself addicted to hardcore pornography online before he had even kissed a girl in real life.
“At first I found it a bit scary and a bit yucky ... I didn’t know it was possible for people to do those sort of things — and there were lots of nasty close-ups. But it gave me funny feelings and the pictures started to stick in my head,” the boy said, according to Woods.
“The websites led me to other websites and soon I was looking at even weirder stuff I could never have imagined — animals, children, stabbing and strangling. I stopped leaving my room and seeing my friends because when I was away from the pornography, I was dying to get back to see what else I could find.”
Woods described tales from other teens who found themselves longing for violent hardcore pornography scenarios when meeting with rejection from real-life women.
“I feel like stabbing her,” one 18-year-old gave as his usual reaction when rejected by a girl, according to Woods. The same boy admitted that he enjoyed “seeing women being hurt” and fantasized about strangling them - all the while thinking of suicide himself, because he feared that hardcore porn had ruined his chances at a real relationship forever.
Another case cited by Woods was Andrew, 13, who had sexually abused his five-year-old half-sister. “Due to his two years of constant porn use, he has built up a complex fantasy world — so it was no big step for him to try to involve her,” wrote Woods.
Monica Breaux PhD, an adults-only therapist and expert in sex addiction based in Arizona, said that Woods’ scenarios are all too accurate.
“My clients are primarily adult men seeking help for pornography compulsion, but I am painfully aware that experts report there is no way to prevent children from being exposed to pornography,” Breaux told LifeSiteNews.com in an email.
Breaux said the porn trap is especially pernicious for children, who have yet to develop a sense of boundaries against acting out what they have seen with others.
“Children are naturally drawn to images of other children as models of behavior. They pressure peers to view and imitate pornography,” she said. Meanwhile, “group sex, bestiality, and sadomasochism are prevalent in pornographic materials that children stumble upon.”
Breaux said porn’s “dehumanizing” effect can spread into a person’s entire life.
“We select people in the pornographic pictures for our personal slaves. We do not think of their hunger, their wounds, their need for our genuine love and concern,” the therapist said. “This slaveholder attitude creeps into our relationship skills.”
As a sex addict loses sight of others’ dignity, said Breaux, this assessment of the human person ultimately takes root in themselves, destroying their self-esteem.
When addicted to porn, “we go blind to the goodness within us, believing we are bad and unlovable,” she said. “My clients, who turned to pornography to soothe their loneliness and emotional pain, tell me ‘Pornography ruined my life. It was the worst thing that ever happened to me.’”
Woods cited a U.K. report that found four out of five 16-year-olds regularly access porn online. His own area in North London has seen 50 referrals for youths suffering from compulsive porn use in the past year.
“As a therapist, I am convinced that these images can be deeply traumatising to children — not least because a competitive market means that pornographers are trying to outdo each other to come up with the most extreme images,” he said.
“This contest to push the boundaries means that straight intercourse is considered too boring. Images of brutal anal sex and women being humiliated and degraded by two or more men at any one time are the new norms,” wrote Woods. “Some of the kids who regularly see such scenes will become conditioned to being aroused by only the most extreme practices at a critical state of their sexual development.”
Another alarming aspect of the dilemma is how easily it could be prevented: parents, he said, just aren’t in the room when kids are on the Internet. “Most parents simply have no idea of what their children are doing,” he said.
“In the Seventies and Eighties, parents were urged to ask: ‘Do you know where your child is?’ The urgent question parents should now ask is: ‘Do you know where your child is going online?’ because, in my view, where they wander on the web is potentially more dangerous.”
Without that control, the debilitating addiction could shatter a young person’s budding relationship skills and self-image for a lifetime.
Woods says Jamie told him he felt branded by the immense guilt of the addiction he had stumbled into - “as if it is written across my forehead” - and which was now completely out of his control.
“It still makes me think I might never have a proper girlfriend - because the pictures still come back to me sometimes. It make makes me want to shout, ‘Stop, stop,’” said the boy. “But sometimes they still won’t go away.”
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Are the parents clueless or just stupid? You can’t allow a 11,12 or 13 year old get on the internet unsupervised. Kids are curious and will google or look up odd things.....Much less let them have internet access in their room. The internet is a good place for kids to be able to learn but their are seedier sections where kids need to be kept from
So we should ignore it? Porn is just getting worse and worse.
It damages marriages which is the bedrock of our society.
Ok, I understand your position, and to some extent I agree.
My question is, how are you going to do it in a manner that the “cure” isn’t worse than the “disease.”
It is pretty sad that a woman could be so unappealing that her husband would rather whack it to a bunch of electrons than have sex with her . . . or that a woman would be dopey enough to marry a dude like that in the first place.
“Are the parents clueless or just stupid?”
See post #10
But yes and yes.
“My question is, how are you going to do it in a manner that the “cure” isn’t worse than the “disease.””
Very good question. I don’t propose legislation as the answer although it may be part of it. Banning bestiality and similar things.
IMO the real answer is through Jesus. When men have a closer relationship with Jesus they can focus on the right things, and not the bad stuff like porn.
I heard a stat at church; if the man of the house goes to church the rest of the household is 87% more likely to go with him. As compared to the woman wanting to go to church but not the man. Men need to wake up and be the leaders God instructed us to be.
When you can’t even get consensus on a conservative forum like FR that porn is evil then this country’s in a whole lot of trouble.
Pretty shallow
Speaking of wankers.......
Unappealing?
So how is a wife to compete with women who are airbrushed, had billions in plastic surgery and one massive boob job?
Oh heck of the husband spent that much on plastic surgery on his wife instead of porn maybe she could compete. Still can’t get around the airbrushing though.
In other words the women in porn are fake! His wife is real. That is why she is “unappealing”. Her flaws can’t be airbrushed, she does not and may not want fake boobs, and other forms of painful expensive plastic surgery.
Yea these woman are unappealing compared to a made up fantasy.
HOwever these are the wives who cook, clean and have babies. I guess that makes them unloveable. To be loved they have to be a hot sex siren.
-—Therapists now say we’re only beginning to scratch the surface of the havoc wreaked on this “Generation XXX” as it freely surfs the Internet - where 30 percent of all traffic is dedicated to porn.——
As soon as I understood what Algore’s “information superhighway” was, I started calling it the pornography superhighway.
Porn is devastating marriages. Ask a priest or minister.
A women with normal proportions and normal weight that can wear make up correctly and dress nicely will have no problem with their husband. Yes it takes a modicum of work but the “take me as I am” crowd needs a good education. They are fodder in the war between the sexes.
An addiction is an evolving process. It’s easily possible the man was either clean at the start, or was simply in the early stages of the addiction, where he was only spending a few minutes at it at a time, but still came home. This is something common to plenty of sexual deviancies, it takes time to become obvious.
For good or bad porn drives internet technology. This was especially true in the beginning.
Oh, I don't know, perhaps a little four-letter world called "love."
You can't take an edge case (e.g., "married man would rather do himself while watching porn than be done by his wife") and pass it off as the norm, because what you're really doing is giving an example of a really bad marriage between two people who would probably have intimacy issues even if porn never existed. Now I'm not here to suggest that porn is wonderful, but rather to suggest that in the realm of this subject, maybe you're acting the part of the "gun grabber" who suggests that the "gun" is the evil thing that must be forbidden for the sake of humanity.
-—These talking points brought to you courtesy of the Libertarian Party.——
LOL! These are the typical rationalizations of addicts.
There, I said it.
The hysterical tone is the give-away.
For those who say they aren’t addicted, go ahead and quit. It should be easy, since you don’t need it.
Do all men have it in them to become sexual deviants? Just add a sprinkling of porno, and in no time, you're going to get yourself a pederast and/or a murderer?
Several years ago a partner of mine and I would go to storage locker auctions and buy delinquent units, inevitably most contained porno collections, usually VCR tapes.
When we held our sales events they were all kept behind the counter, out of site.
You would be shocked at the number of women that would ask if we had any porn for sale with absolutely no abashedness.
It is indeed a two way street. It's not just men in those films.
I'd probably never get married but this is the typically story from nearly all of my married friends. At least the friends whose wives let them off the leash long enough to speak about it.
Too many women don't even know what they want and are constantly unhappy under any circumstances.
-If you stand up for yourself each time, you “don't listen”. If you do everything she wants, you're a “doormat”.
-If you work very hard and have a busy personal life, you are “abandoning”. If you try to spend too much time together you “need more time apart”.
-If you make much more than her and are generous you are “trying to bribe her”. If you make less, you are a “bum”.
I could go on and on. And if they finally get the right combination one day and get their wives into the sack, they usually realize it wasn't even worth the effort in the first place. Too many women put as little effort as possible into sex and abandon trying anything new.
It's much easier and usually more satisfying for them to pop in a movie that shows exactly what they want(and never will get) or get a prostitute.
I'm not saying everyone is like that but the risk is too high. Many of my friends’ wives were completely different people before the wedding. As for me, I don't believe that I will ever meet someone that I would marry. I'll stick to girlfriends however long it works out for.
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