Posted on 04/26/2006 12:32:31 PM PDT by Sopater
It's 10 a.m. on a Saturday, and I am at the front of a room at the Phinney Ridge Neighborhood Center, explaining oral sex to a woman pretending to be my son.
I stammer and pause, go back over my words and Hate This, while the woman smiles. Your turn next, sister. Talking to our kids about sex is something we over-prepared parents just aren't prepared for. I changed the diapers, packed Gatorade and soothed all sorts of hurts, emotional and physical.
But preparing my 13-year-old son to be a sexual being? Explaining when and why, how and where? Sure, when he's 35.
Enter Amy Lang, a Seattle mother who hosts sex-education workshops called "Birds + Bees + Kids" to parents at PTAs, private homes and community centers.
Lang started our session by asking where we first heard about sex.
In health class. From friends. Older siblings. Dog-eared Judy Blume books like "Forever."
"What's missing?" Lang asked.
Our parents.
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Her Web site is www.birdsandbeesandkids.com
(Excerpt) Read more at seattletimes.nwsource.com ...
"For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us to lay upon you no greater burden than these essentials: that you abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from things strangled and from fornication; if you keep yourselves free from such things, you will do well. Farewell."- Acts 15:28-29 NASB
Better talk to your 13 year old before his teacher gets to him.
Sex Positive advocates abhor the teaching of abstinence because they find it to be "unhealthy" because the person does not act on sexual desires.
* cough *
Considering several of the articles about teachers that show up around here, that's probably true in more ways than one.
She couldn't tell that the woman wasn't her son?
Nowadays, his teacher may try to discuss this topic -- but can she talk with her mouth full?
My parents never talked to me about sex and my only advice to my daughters on the subject was "Don't."
The thought of a boy's mother talking to him about oral sex creeps me out.
He'll be telling his psycho analyst about that one years from now.
I've heard more than one sex ed advocate make similar statements, as though just because we have the desire we ought to act on it. Simply ridiculous. If my desire is to shoot some idiot driver who just cut me off, should I then act on that, too?
I wish my kid's teacher would have a parent's class like that for us. You should see some of the moms! Ohhh yeah! Talk dirty to me, baby! ;-)
Well, if that's not a deterrent, what is?
I think this Lang lady ought to be checked out, anybody her age going around pretending to be a 13 year old boy may have a problem.
Sure a mom can do it, but that's a man's job where a son is concerned.
... donning nomex overalls ...
I think it is the FATHER's job to tell his children about sex whether they are sons or daughters.
don't you have somewhere you need to be, instead of trolling for sex talks....? ; )
says the man with no daughters! LOL!
Too true.
I wonder how Monica is going to handle this?
no way xshub would talk to our daughters about sex. and he doesn't need to, i have covered it. thoroughly. and i have talked to our son as well. i will leave the fine points to his dad, but i got my points across
Not if you are already wearing a bathing suit, it doesn't.
How about the overwhelming desire to reach out and choke the living crap out of some Liberal that wants to give all my money away to people who wasted their youths while I was working my butt off and still work my butt off? That is MUCH stronger than the sex drive, trust me.
Actually, I'm preparing my 13 y/o son to NOT be a sexual being and to wait until the right time for sexual activity, i.e. his wedding night.
If I go to the ocean, I go in my bathing suit and take a change of clothes for afterwards, but that's just me.
And one time, at band camp...
This may be just the way I, alone, see it but here goes. Our society has gone to h*** in a hand basket since the advent of free love in the sixties. It was supposed to be liberating but lets look at what has actually happened. The divorce rate has skyrocketed. Out of wedlock births increased exponentially. Happily that seems to be abating. The gay community holds the straight community hostage to demands that the gay community NEEDS special protection. Never mind that the reason that AIDS has been able to devastate the gays has been their own insistence that their sexual behavior is nobody's business. Unless it is to their benefit to use their sexual behavior to sue for something or other. All I can think of is that sex (having sex, getting sex, looking at sexual images, etc.) has become the most important thing in our lives, at least according to the lefties. It would be nice to get back to the concept that sex, or making love, is much better within a committed relationship, ideally a marriage. Procreation should be taught in Health Class. That's all.
Sorry, mac, on this point we must accept merely to permanently disagree.
I had zero problems discussing sex with my kids.
The liberals made it so easy. With their nudity and exhibitionism, my kids learned to do exactly opposite of what liberals preach.
My kids learned early that liberals are out to ruin great sex. :)
End of story.
Fathers should tell sons about sex, and mothers should tells girls about sex. However, fathers should tell girls about the way most males think about females. Warn them.
Good point!
Have any parents have a different type of discussion on sexuality for adult children, soon to be married?
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