For years they claimed they “just wanted to be left alone.”
the other mafia just wants to be left alone as well
See my tag line.
Dr. Henry Cloud’s book “Boundaries” explains this perfectly.
When you have unhealthy boundaries, when you aren’t trained out of self-centered narcissism, you get someone who thinks:
* love equals total endorsement of their beliefs and actions, and if you say they’re wrong, you must hate them
* they’re so special that others’ boundaries can be violated but the rules they set others have to obey
* they can have privacy but you can’t, they can nanny others but don’t tell them what to do
* feelings equal morality, so what they want should be theirs, what they don’t like should be banned