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13 Reasons You're Not As Successful As You Should Be
National Federation of Independent Business ^ | January 4, 2013 | Jim Kukral

Posted on 01/03/2013 11:31:55 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet

Feeling down about your small business these days? Is the broken economy hurting your sales and keeping you up at night? Need some motivation and tough love to help you stop pitying yourself? Well, here you go: 13 reasons you might have in your head about why you're not as successful as you should be.

#1 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Laziness I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?

#2 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Entitlement Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want. Quit thinking you are owed something. You’re not. Get to work.

#3 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Fear You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though... what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?(continued)

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Computers/Internet; Society
KEYWORDS: economy; motivation; sales; success
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1 posted on 01/03/2013 11:32:10 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

What a complete load of condemnatory pseudo-psychological bs.

Reason #14 why the author isnt successful? People have wised up and stopped buying his ridculous self-improvement books and courses.


2 posted on 01/04/2013 12:05:10 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: Vanders9

I think it’s a great list... and does make a lot of sense.


3 posted on 01/04/2013 12:25:06 AM PST by Cementjungle
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To: Vanders9

I actually think this is a pretty good list.


4 posted on 01/04/2013 12:28:46 AM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: Vanders9; 2ndDivisionVet

#1 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Laziness

You have to work your ass off but, there needs to be a certain amount of laziness.  Like work smarter than the other guy laziness and get more done, in less time and higher quality.  When you master that you will find yourself at ease knowing you can take time off to have fun because you have fun just as hard as you work. 

#2 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Entitlement

Skip it lazy ass.  You ain't entitled to Shiiite...PERIOD or even EVUH.  You will earn every penny and own the sweat from it.
 

#3 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Fear

Yep, you are a Fraidy Cat.  Get over it.  Just move, Just do it, act like you can.  Pretend you are Bruce Lee.
 

#4 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Negativity

Get rid of dream killers, stop listening and reading the news. If it gets bad enough, someone will tell you.  Then again, you might want to be informed but, with all the negative crap that happens in a day, accept its existence and resist until you are so rich you can throw away bars of soap when the letters wear off.  Then you can pay some other jerkoff to worry about crap that really doesn't matter.
 

#5 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Stop Thinking

You are so smart!!!  Sure you are.  Stuff it.  The bottom line?  Only an intended outcome matters and results that are meaningful and measurable matter more than your being the smartest person in the room.  Let the smartest person in the room take a paycheck from the guy who gets it done and rides private jet cuz commercial is a hassle.
 

#6 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No Goals

Pretty much.  You just don't think much further than next months rent.  You gotta be sexy, bold, courageous and think about 5 years from now.  Dream it, what does it mean to you, what will it feel like when you get there, smell it, feel it, Live itl 

#7 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – “They”

FK em.  "They" will always take advantage of you or get in your way.  Ignore them, push past them and climb your mountain. 

#8 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No “X” Factor

You do have to work harder than pretty people but most pretty people know they have an advantage and never excell at much.  Don't believe me?  Explain all the ugly people who are rich..... 

#9 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Time Waste

Don't excel at low value activities.  Excel at activities which push or move you closer to your goal.
 

#10 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Social B.S.

Yawn.  Most people aren't even interesting.  Start by blowing off the ones you have wanted out of your life for while anyway and see how you fill that space they have been wasting.
 

#11 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Think Small

Waste of time to dream about a new Miata, except if it's your dream then start there but think "What if I could Pay Cash?"  What would that feel like?  "Hey!!! I won't worry about bill collectors" .  Me?  I dream big and visualize.  Today I finally acquired a watch I spent two years trying to get.  I collect Omega watches and decided I wanted to collect Omega watches designed for the Olympics.  I now have the 2010 Vancouver Seamaster, my 4th Seamaster.  You can see one here   http://www.selectism.com/2009/02/18/omega-seamaster-diver-watch-for-vancouver-2010/ You are not me, so you will probably not ever own this time piece(Just my ego and I am so pumped, get over it.  I'll be humble tomorrow).  they only made 2010 of these and I am only one of some 2000 men who have this...IN THE WORLD!  HA, HA HAAAA!!!!!  I love this thing!!!! 

I am getting the Lillihammer 1994 Omega in a day or two.  Not limited but comes with 5 different kewel Aligator bands and I want the blue one.

#12 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Want It

Early bird will take an ass kicking by the hungry bird.  You have to want it so bad you can taste it.  The only people who get what they want are those who need it so bad they will work their buttocks off to?????????  What to do you want?  Why do you want it?  What will it mean to you?  What will mean if you can't have it?  You are the only person stopping you.

 

That's my rewrite.  Hope no one minds.  I am so high because I got this watch!  I hope to meet another man wearing it while I'm wearing mine.  I'll buy him a drink and we'll laugh because we both have a fabulous watch collection and we'll try to impress each other with our stupid crap. 

Can't wait to meet that guy.
 


5 posted on 01/04/2013 12:37:10 AM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

bttt


6 posted on 01/04/2013 2:14:01 AM PST by Ann Archy (ABORTION........the HUMAN sacrifice to the god of CONVENIENCE.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
Sometimes, events beyond your control come fast and furious enough to make shutting down the rational choice. Cashflow problems with your customers become your own when they start nitpicking for discounts and sitting on invoices for ninety-plus days.

Loss of large accounts due to bankruptcy or merger can be difficult to surmount when buyers have panicked and pulled any new programs, not to mention being left holding the bag on outside expenditures in the high five figures due to a customer bankruptcy. Office space and equipment leases cost money whether there is anything coming in or not.

Lived all that, in 2008. Don't sling this motivational poster crap in my face. If I had tried to ride it out I would have been broke and a ward of the state or living under a bridge by now. As it stands, I'm holding my own, waiting to get back in and fight another day.

7 posted on 01/04/2013 2:40:37 AM PST by RegulatorCountry
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To: Vanders9
"Reason #14 why the author isnt successful?" _________________________________________________________________________________________________

13 Reasons You're Not As Successful As You Should Be

He's not even a capable wordsmith. The author let his true thoughts about entitlement show with that one word....he's a phony

8 posted on 01/04/2013 4:02:42 AM PST by Roccus
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To: RegulatorCountry

I agree.

Hubby has busted his hump for 17+ years but in the last 4 [gee..what *could* have happened since then?] we’ve watched our normal year-long waiting list dwindle to nothing.

He just finished his only kit order at brutally discounted prices and we are going to make hardly any profit.

People simply can’t afford even our low prices any more.

99% of our buyers are veterans and they’re terrified to make any moves for fear of cuts to their paychecks.

Just found out a friend of ours has left his desk duty post and is heading back to Afghanistan next month.

Not because he wants to [he’s been going there since the 90’s] but because battle pay is higher.

Wife and kids to support.

The Won has succeeded in crushing the small business people.

Only large chain stores remain open in my area.

All the ‘little guys’ are going or already gone.

Ironically, tonight as I waited in our 10 year old car for hubby to buy Super Glue to fix the reading glasses I can’t afford to replace, a 47%er mom and her kid frolicked out of the store loaded down with bags, wearing really nice new clothes I could never afford and hopped into their shiny late model Toyota 4Runner.

Don’t tell me we’re ‘failing’ for lack of any of the crap in that article.

And we still have to pay for the machine shop and all the equipment therein, even though it’s not making us any money, now.

The majority of businesses and people ‘failing’ right now are a direct result of The Won’s intentional slaughter of the “American Dream”.


9 posted on 01/04/2013 4:05:56 AM PST by Salamander (Nothing says “Welcome to my home!” like snakes.)
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To: Roccus

Exactly. Smoke and mirrors. It sounds impressive because we all can relate to most of the things he lists, but pointing it out does nothing but make you feel guilty, not inspire you to greatness. True, guilt is the greatest thing holding most folk in chains, but in this case what is he trying to make you guilty of? Being Human?

In any case, if he really wanted to help he wouldn’t be turning the pyscholodical screws like that. It’s all empty words designed to impress, but he just comes over to me as being very smug, which shouldn’t really surprise anyone. What mostly sets “successful” people apart is that they do not desire company. :)


10 posted on 01/04/2013 4:29:00 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Interesting list.


11 posted on 01/04/2013 4:44:01 AM PST by STJPII
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Woohoo! I got 13 out of 13! Oh, wait a minute...


12 posted on 01/04/2013 5:37:38 AM PST by Moltke ("I am Dr. Sonderborg," he said, "and I don't want any nonsense.")
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To: Cementjungle; 9YearLurker
It's a pretty standard list for a motivational speaker, and sure, superficially it does make a lot of sense. However, there is an awful lot it does not say.

First and foremost - what do you mean by "success"? Lots of money? A big house? Freedom to do whatever you want? Mother Theresa had none of those things, yet no one would say she was not a "success". What counts as success to me might not be success to you. Not everyone wants to be a CEO or have millions in their bank account. I have a friend who's clever, highly qualified and assertive, but she has never progressed in her profession. She barely has two cents to rub together, but she's happy in her work because she's a paramedic who regularly saves people's lives. Is she a "success"? Not according to this guy.

And who is he anyway? According to the blurb he speaks and writes books about business and marketing. In other words, he's a salesman. Pure and simple. And what he sells is primarily himself, and a particular very materialistic worldview. But hold on. He makes nothing. He produces nothing. He just manipulates what everyone else does (which is how to become rich incidentally - there's no money at all in manufacturing these days. The profit is all in "value added" activities - most of which don't add any value at all). Think on it. If aliens beamed up all the "motivational speakers" and all the janitors on Earth, who do you think would be missed first?

As for his list...#1 "I have to assume you are lazy." Do you now? It may be true that "every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are", but that doesn't necessarily mean the reverse is true. There are plenty of people who slog away day after day and never get anywhere. Artists are the classic example. Most of them only become "successful" after they're dead, which is scant comfort for them here and now.

#1, #4 & #5 are all effective subsets of the big lie in #7, namely "The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything." Garbage! Of course I would never deny that you do have a strong influence over your success. If you don't try and don't work hard you will certainly never succeed, but the horrid fact is that there are an enormous number of factors influencing "success" that are completely beyond your control. Hard work and effort are only a starting point.

#3 Negativity. You don't get to choose your family. If they are "negative" is he advocating ditching them? What happens if the wife suddenly becomes a liability, economically speaking. If she develops some chronic illness do you think your vows become null and void?

#13 Society didn't teach me that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Experience teaches me that. Logically, there can only ever be a few people who are the "best" in any field. The last sentence gives the author's ideology away. He thinks the way to get ahead is to push everyone else down, metaphorically speaking. He thinks of the world as consisting of losers (people who do not share his values) and "the rest of us". The guy is an elitist, as bad as any liberal. Well let me tell you, you can get all the "success" you like in the world, and then you die and none of it counts for squat. He won't be at the front of the queue at the end of time.

13 posted on 01/04/2013 5:41:58 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: Salamander
And we still have to pay for the machine shop and all the equipment therein, even though it’s not making us any money, now.

I come from a family that used to be in machining and manufacturing. Once upon a time.

Somehow, it's still in my blood, but only as a hobby.

I'm sorry to hear you're hurting. It's people like you - small businesses making stuff - that would be the backbone of America if we got out of your way.

If I could make a suggestion, and I admittedly don't know what the barriers to entry are like, it might be worth looking into firearms manufacture (almost definitely need an FFL), or even just accessories (probably doesn't need an FFL, but I don't know for sure). You've probably read about the situation with guns and parts of all types right how - stuff is sold out everywhere.

Here's one example...

Things like hobbyist machining jigs for 80% AR-15 lower recievers. (http://www.cncguns.com/tooling.html is an example) might be a way to get some equipment busy and make some cash, even if it's just for the short term.
14 posted on 01/04/2013 5:45:09 AM PST by chrisser (Senseless legislation does nothing to solve senseless violence.)
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To: Salamander
I can relate to that so much. The US sounds like its about eight to ten years behind the UK. Its not a good transition you are going to be going through. The government get more and more control, and they squeeze harder and harder, and the skilled working class/lower middle class just gets destroyed. Pay rises stop. Bonuses stop. Your savings are ground away. Big firms undercut your small business. Even if you occupy a niche you go under because no one can afford your products.

It just goes to prove time and circumstance happen to us all. When you add the poison of "progressive" socialism the odds are stacked against "success". Its possible, but its getting harder and harder.

15 posted on 01/04/2013 5:58:10 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: chrisser

Engineering is in my blood too, but its time is rapidly passing. There is just no money in it anymore, except possibly some of the “new” technologies, and the big companies are moving to sew that one up.


16 posted on 01/04/2013 6:02:02 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

what a mean article. I suggest this loser take a long walk off a short pier


17 posted on 01/04/2013 6:14:38 AM PST by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: Vanders9

I’d say that you are the one confusing success with material wealth. If that is what someone aspires to, then that is fine, I guess—he doesn’t seem to be making any judgments in that way. How did this guy say that your friend or M. Theresa is not a success?

Most people on FR actually believe in free markets, and that if people value motivational speaking and market consulting, why the more power to the motivational speakers and market consultants who fill that niche for them!

I really don’t see how his point to limit exposure to negative mindsets (hmmm...where could I be detecting one about now?) in any way suggests a sick or unemployed wife (or husband) should be ditched.

Finally, it is a very sad thing if most people in society aspire to that which is out of their reach. There is so much of value here right at hand.


18 posted on 01/04/2013 6:18:31 AM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

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19 posted on 01/04/2013 6:36:16 AM PST by Bon mots (Abu Ghraib: 47 Times on the front page of the NY Times | Benghazi: 2 Times)
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To: RegulatorCountry

When my company was dragging me towards BK years ago, I complained to an oilman from Odessa, TX.

He said, “Never discount luck. I have seen experienced, well-financed men fail. I have seen amateurs succeed. Keep swinging; you WILL hit the ball!”


20 posted on 01/04/2013 6:43:46 AM PST by darth
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