More background here.
Here is daughter Emily Crews-Montes, who is married to a French doctor:
Posted on 11/18/2012 6:52:14 AM PST by KeyLargo
'I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed': retired naval officer's email to children in full
This is the full email that retired Royal Navy officer Nick Crews sent to his son and two daughters in February expressing his and his wife's disappointment in them.
2:31PM GMT 18 Nov 2012
Dear All Three
With last evening's crop of whinges and tidings of more rotten news for which you seem to treat your mother like a cess-pit, I feel it is time to come off my perch.
It is obvious that none of you has the faintest notion of the bitter disappointment each of you has in your own way dished out to us. We are seeing the miserable death throes of the fourth of your collective marriages at the same time we see the advent of a fifth.
We are constantly regaled with chapter and verse of the happy, successful lives of the families of our friends and relatives and being asked of news of our own children and grandchildren. I wonder if you realise how we feel — we have nothing to say which reflects any credit on you or us. We don't ask for your sympathy or understanding — Mum and I have been used to taking our own misfortunes on the chin, and making our own effort to bash our little paths through life without being a burden to others. Having done our best — probably misguidedly — to provide for our children, we naturally hoped to see them in turn take up their own banners and provide happy and stable homes for their own children.
Sorry, admiral, it your fault. Parenting is not for the weak of heart. Fun to make but hard to raise.
What did the older generation teach their children? Not much. Not much at all. They were on autopilot. Now the older generations want to complain. Too late, gramps. You had you chance for over 50 years and you sat on your collective asses. The younger generations can barely tie their own shoes as no skills whatsoever were passed down. Life was good after WWII so no one bothered to raise those little suburbian darlings. No one bothered to teach them.
the printer repair man was a spoof, in the photo he’s wearing an ar15.com t-shirt
these kids are not too bad. I have a neice on her fifth.
LOL... we sound like the four Yorkshiremen. "Luxury. We slept in a hole in the ground..." "Oh? That were paradise, compared to us. At least you had a hole! We slept in the lake!"
Clints movies all have a line or two that become classic. LIke”dying no way to live son”,
Memo to Maria Howdoyousolveaproblemlike:
HA!
Your stroppy old sea dog Captain Von Trapp wasn’t the only one with a no-nonsense parenting approach.
But I bet our one doesn’t sing.
England 1, Austria 0.
You’re not singing
You’re not singing
You’re not singing anymore!
You’re not si-i-inging anymore!
In this email the "children" are all adults, with children of their own. Like many, by adolescence they probably became more susceptible to peer culture, societal influence, even educational malpractice, than parental guidance. They have been making their own decisions for years now, apparently choosing poorly despite parental efforts to provide guidance, yet expecting their parents to somehow "fix" things for them.
The father here should have set his limits and expressed his expectations years ago, and maybe the wayward "kids" would have woken up sooner. But then hindsight is always so easy, isn't it.
More background here.
Here is daughter Emily Crews-Montes, who is married to a French doctor:
According to another UK paper, daughter Emily asked her father to publish it:
The family feud burst into the public domain when Nick Crews published the email at the request of daughter Emily Crews-Montes, 40 – one of his targets – who now lives in France [married to a doctor] and works as a translator for a publisher. She is the only one of the siblings still speaking to her parents.
The country is screwed.
These geniuses didn’t think they were studying for something that wouldn’t pay enough to pay off their loans????
87k in loans for a printer repairman? sounds more like 87k for a few years of partying. He ought to be embarrassed for being so stupid.
Each year I grow in respect for my parents as I realize what they did for me, many times with neither of us knowing that teaching was taking place at the time.
If parents aren’t teaching their very youg child those habits and morals we can be sure the rest of the world will teach them its habits and morals.
That’s how I got it.
LOL...check out his shirt and ballcap. This guy is obviously making fun of the OWS idiots!
he is a military officer with speaking to his own kids as if they were his subordinates on a ship. is there any wonder that they feel alienated from him? they make life decisions without his advice ; does anyone here wonder why they do that?
he has been doing this for many years. it’s also likely that he’s a very angry and violent man.
This is the inevitable result of selfish decisions, which is at the heart of the “liberal” mentality. And who really suffers the most from this liberal mentality? The children of course, the exact same group of people that liberals portend to support with all of their selfish policies.
JoMa
You certainly have my admiration.
Our country seems to be having fewer and fewer people like you. Damn.
Daughter defends former submarine captain who told children he was ‘bitterly disappointed’ in them
The daughter of a former submarine captain who told his children he was “bitterly disappointed” in them has defended her father.
Yesterday one of his daughters admitted that she had needed a “kick up the backside”. Emily Crews-Montes, 40, said: “He wouldn’t retract what he said, and nor should he. In no way would I ask him to apologise. Fundamentally, I couldn’t have a great quarrel with what he wrote. I accept it was too harsh. But if you live in France, you’re used to being judged harshly.”
Mrs Crews-Montes now lives in Brittany with her second husband, a French surgeon, and three children aged 18 months, two, and 12.
She said her father’s email did not upset her because she had already begun to turn her life around when she received it in February. She had set up a business and had started translating a French self-help book into English.
“I had already done what he told me to do. I had already given myself a kick up the backside.” She admitted spending “many years underperforming”, partly because her father’s uncompromising stance left her with little self-confidence.
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