>>But then I stopped donating to the the United Way after their row about not wanting to support the boy scouts.>>
We stopped giving to United Way years and years ago after we found out that their statement that you can choose who to give to and who not to give to was a fake. Their percentages of which organization gets how much is set BEFORE the drive begins. So if you say you won’t contribute to (name your group) they simply take more out of their collection results and give it to the group you’ve said you won’t give to because they have already set up the percentages each group gets.
That's exactly when I stopped, too.
Give directly where you wish. As with most else in the world, who needs the overhead and bureaucracy?