Spot on....
I can't tell you how many times my wife and I were complemented on our children behavior when we took all out in public places...
Most were - teach me how you do that-? Some with tears in their eyes...
Unfortunately, most did not have the will power or patience to take control over their children...it also starts at an early age training them...
Some of the elements of our training :
First time obedience...
The interrupt rule
No temper tantrum allowed
No name calling when angry
Mom and Dad always absolutely in agreement in front of the children so not to allow a opening to pit us against each other
Forgiveness and repentance was required when conflicts happened
Were we perfect, LOL, but we worked on it every day...
My wife and I added one element, in a progressive manner as the kids got older and could understand more.
The kids had the right to ask why - but only AFTER compliance. As little ones, the answer was usually very simple, including “because I said so”. As teens, they got answers that explained some of the factors they couldn’t yet perceive.
Again, they had to comply, but they had the right to understand the reasoning behind the ruling, once they had complied.
It seems to both have worked and be working well, so far.