Posted on 03/02/2015 3:15:06 PM PST by rickmichaels
Domestic abuse leaves a spouse bruised, battered, possibly bleeding internally, with broken bones and a severely damaged psyche. Where does he go?
Yes, he; the battered man, beaten by a woman who claims to love him.
During a recent discussion on my Newstalk1010 radio show about domestic abuse, a caller named Robert took exception to the media always, in his assessment, portraying the man as the perpetrator and the woman as the victim.
Robert suggested someone should do an ad campaign portraying the “other side” of the debate.
I challenged him by saying: “Why don’t you do it?”
So he did.
The ad campaign is being sponsored by the Canadian Association for Equality (CAFE), starting with a billboard to go up Wednesday in the heart of Toronto at the corner of Bedford and Davenport Rds.
The billboard features the image of an angry woman towering over a cowering male.
It reads, “HALF of domestic violence victims are men. NO domestic violence shelters are dedicated to us.”
It includes the Twitter tag #LetsTalkMen, and the website www.equalitycanada.com.
So are they right? Is female domestic violence against men as serious as they claim?
Robert (he prefers not to make his last name public) provided me with a paper by Prof. Martin S. Fiebert of the department of psychology of California State University at Long Beach, References Examining Assaults by Women on Their Spouses or Male Partners.
“This annotated bibliography describes 343 scholarly investigations (270 empirical studies and 73 reviews) demonstrating that women are as physically aggressive as men (or more) in their relationships with their spouses or opposite-sex partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 440,850 people.”
Justin Trottier of CAFE says, “Men are victims, but whether it is macho stereotypes, or the fact that hospitals and police don’t take domestic violence as seriously when men are the victims, men are less likely to take action.”
A Statistics Canada report says “Females continue to be the most likely victims of police-reported spousal violence, accounting for 83% of victims compared to 17% males. This holds true for every province and territory across Canada.”
Robert told me that he doesn’t take issue with the fact men are physically stronger and can thus inflict more damage in domestic assaults, “but that is not the story of domestic violence, which is a power and control issue.”
When society views men as always the perpetrators and women as always the victims, a tremendous amount of power and control is given to abusive women.
Trottier says, “There are systems we can put in place to encourage men to report. When men come to the hospital with bruises, the hospital doesn’t ask whether those bruises are the result of domestic violence, but it’s standard practice to ask a woman who comes into an emergency room, whether she has bruises or not, whether she is a victim of domestic violence.
“There have been a couple of test cases; hospitals that have started asking both men and women whether they are victims, and they find that a surprisingly high percentage of men are coming in for that reason.”
Trottier recommends gender neutral policies at hospitals.
He stresses CAFE’s campaign isn’t to distract from the importance of helping female victims, but to address societal attitudes towards male victims.
It’s a worthwhile effort, as illustrated by a text a listener sent during my show stating: “These guys deserve to be punched.”
Any one who doesn’t think women can be abusers
should look at the statistics of abused lesbian
relationships.
Women abuse people, just like minorities commit racism, etc. All the stereotypes are bad when carried to an extreme.
I will acknowledge that generally speaking men are more physically dominant and usually are more likely to abuse some one.
But women find plenty of ways to abuse and even kill men. Jodi Arias for example.
Yeah, but first you have to figure out who the man is in that kind of relationship.
Because of my own Personal experience with Domestic Violence, if OJ confessed, I would find him INNOCENT for the Murder of Nicole, but I would hang him for the waiter.
And I knew both of them!
Do what Sean Connery does in James Bond...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJWfObq2cFk
Different times back then...
Both are equally wrong, but one is rightly illegal.
I think female abuse is more likely to be psychological than physical. Trouble is, how can you prove that over violence, and how can you put violence from women in the same league when, not to put to fine a point on it, are physically capable of making the choice as to whether to allow themselves to be abused or not?
My husband observed an out of control female in Winco the other day.
He said she was huge and literally throwing punches. The male stood there and took it while people stared and kept their distance.
If the victim had been female, someone would have called 911.
I said that I would have called the police, and my husband agreed that he probably should have done that.
One third of domestic homicide victims are men.
Men use their hands and feet more often.
Women resort to weapons, often easily available blunt objects. It is why the frying pan is a stereotype woman’s weapon.
Women initiate domestic violence as often as men. Plus they tend to pick things up and throw or hit with them. But if a man eventually hits back, it's the man who will be arrested and prosecuted.
I challenged him by saying: “Why don’t you do it?” "
Because my wife would kill me.
If the true figures were exposed, you also see a significant queer on queer percentage!!!!
I have seen women “playfully” smack of punch men before. And if a man reacts then he gets a beat down by the law and manginas who will defend the woman yelling “you don’t hit girls bro.”
I know a guy who’s ex broke in to his apartment while he was asleep. jumped on him and started beating on him. He woke up swinging and did hit her before he realized what was going on. She called 911 and he went to jail!!
If they file for divorce, the possibility that they will lose the kids and more than half of the joint property, I imagine, also comes into play on the subject of men who ultimately do not leave abusive wives.
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