[hattend]

De Filippis notes that, at weddings, “it’s understood you have to cover the cost of food per plate.”

I did not know this

I'm sorry, but isn't that what the bride's father is paying for? I had no idea he was just the Maitre d'

If this is the expectation, I'll write the check AFTER I eat the meal and pay accordingly plus I'll include the tip.

[old and tired]

I'm sorry, but isn't that what the bride's father is paying for?

You know, I have often heard people say this, but even 50 years ago when my wife and I married, we paid for our wedding ourselves. Our kids paid for the bulk of their weddings themselves. I've seen on TV where the father of the bride pays for the wedding, but I don't think I know any in real life where that's the case. We chipped in where we could for our kids and in some cases their in laws helped a little too. Maybe the couple paying themselves is the other reason it's considered rude here in the northeast not to cover your plate.