“I have polite working relationships with men in Scouts and church ministry ... it’s very difficult to believe that any of them thinks a 46-year-old married woman with ten children, including a 6-month-old baby, is interested in sex with them.”
They don’t rationally believe it could possibly happen but the thought of fantasy exists. Someone with self control doesn’t act on his thoughts but it is impossible to not have them in the first place.
It is one thing for a man to consider me as a possible sex partner, although I rather hope they wouldn’t, but it’s something else again if any of them thought I was considering them back, as it were.
I’m out of the age range of the study, anyway, although many of the men I see are in their 20s and 30s - because their children are the age of our younger ones - while my husband and I are in our late 40s.