Posted on 05/03/2012 8:55:00 AM PDT by Lazamataz
About 17 years ago, in Rochester, NY, I befriended a small group of people. It was in my druggie days, and they were all big potheads. There was one couple in particular, the T's, I will call them.
I used to go to their frequent dinner parties, and all of us would have a grand old time. They loved inviting me, they called me the 'life of the party'.
Fast forward to now. I happen to look them up on FaceBook. We are all delighted to have reconnected. Things are cool. Over the course of time, the female starts bringing up politics, decrying those 'awful, racist TEABAGGERS'. I tell her my sympathies are with the Tea Party and all we want is a return to the Constitution. When she starts going on about how the Constitution was written by a bunch of racist, evil white men and that it needs to be completely rewritten, I advise her that we probably should avoid the politics discussions if we are going to remain friends.
She ends up being a founding member of Lincoln, Nebraska's Occupy Movement. She contacts me about it and wants me to celebrate it with her. I tell her that I am very happy she's found something that works in her life to avoid depression and her other issues, but I am opposed to the movement as a whole. Still, I stress, I'm happy that she's happy.
Over the course of time, I do my usual thing on facebook and post occasional taunts and jokes directed at the Occupy Wall Street movement. Then one day I notice that she's been missing in action. I go look her and her husband up.
They de-friended me.
Well, to that, I say, good freakin' riddence. I like to leave politics out of friendships, but you know what? OWS and the left are my ENEMIES. I cannot be friends with my absolute, mortal, hated enemy.
Would you have unfriended him if he had not unfriended you?
I’m a firm believer in love. It wasn’t meant to be for you with that person...but you’ll find her. Don’t give up. It took me long enough, LOL.
Me either. For some strange reason I just don’t like people who constantly talk about taking their fair share of my property. Call me quirky.
A touch porky? slather her in Liquid Smoke and Barbeque sauce and then hit it!
Laz, I am so happy you got a clear head, but it appears your friends remained POTHEADS. You don't need friends like that.
My response would have been "You're a POOF??!? I always thought you liked women."
*THEN* I would have cut the contact. :)
You’re gonna help me with a little red x?
Yup. She's in her 60's now but atheist, God-denying and probably still using. I was talking about my 12 step stuff and she said she could never be into 12 Steps because she doesn't believe in God.
Yup. She's in her 60's now but atheist, God-denying and probably still using. I was talking about my 12 step stuff and she said she could never be into 12 Steps because she doesn't believe in God.
And miss all the fun? No way!
You can't mention religion or politics around any of them without them running off into a rant. God forbid you get into Biblical exegesis.
One day on the Great Interconnecting Family Groupathon AP on G3 one of the sons forgot he was communicating with his aunt and began belittling her.
Must remember to hit next JH missionary with broom and chase her away quickly.
Try F5 or this......http://images18.fotki.com/v438/photos/9/127099/8282444/15zgyed-vi.gif
I just “unfriended” a bunch of my liberal friends. I don’t care to hear their opinion. It’s wrong and off base. You can spout off all you want. It’s a free country. But I don’t have to listen to you.
Over the years we somehow picked up a guy we all had worked with with minimal friction and in general was considered a likable guy. As it turned out the guy was a flaming liberal and a verbal bully. It was getting so that some of the more introverted members would skip a breakfast if they knew that 'E' was going to be there.
The group was originally founded by myself and my chief draftsman 'P'. He does all the organizing and issues the cattle call via e-mail. We talked it over and decided the best thing to do was to drop 'E' from the e-mail list. Now breakfast goes down without the need for an antacid and it is safe to talk politics at the table w/o 'E' bloveating.
Some people are more like a stone in your shoe and you can do without the constant irritation.
Regards,
GtG
I just “unfriended” a bunch of my liberal friends. I don’t care to hear their opinion. It’s wrong and off base. You can spout off all you want. It’s a free country. But I don’t have to listen to you.
For us, conservative philosophy is an enthusiasm. For liberals, theirs is a faith. And so, where we tend to respond to their criticisms with (logical) attempts at argumentation, they respond to ours with searing anger because we are mocking their God.
Exactly! Why miss out on all the fun driving them nuts?
She Absolutely despises Guns, Free Markets, Thinks George BOOSH was Beelzebub, and just can't get enough of Ubama's programs.
I tell her that a Ubama policies leads to the Same Place that she grew up starving and fleeing in Germany in the 1940's. But is thick as brick when it comes to that.
A Rich, 78 Year Old, Jewish Land Renter isn't high on Ubama's list of people to please.
That wench has to have been whacked with whatever is dumber than a fence post and is in serious need of being whacked with a Clue by Four to bring back to reality.
She’ll still be a Looser Loser and unworthy of a hit from the Laz.
This is why FR is so valuable....it gives me a chance to vent off steam in a way I cannot do with the people around me.
On FB, I keep things lite, generally just commenting on sports and stuff like that.....it’s just not the right place for politics.
I think he meant “Riddense”. /s
Facebook is a wasteland. I NEVER post anything personal: I post ONLY political stuff. I could give two hoots if anyone “defriends” me because of my beliefs. They weren’t real friends to begin with, and quite frankly, I’ve grown to the point in my life where I neither have to nor will in fact tolerate fools, so I say good riddance. Life is way too short to surround oneself with fools when there’s plenty of other great people around who are worth associating with.
I have only a very few friends left from former lifetimes who I’m willing to tolerate enough to still occasionally associate with. I never discuss politics with them and if they try to after warning them not to, I simply do an about-face and leave the room without saying a word. It’s surprising how effective such a tactic is. After about the third time, it never happens again.
In the mean time, I continue to develop new friendships; people who I have much in common with, people who are intelligent, thoughtful, objective, and who are in continuously-learning mode. People who can have rational discussions about a myriad of subjects. People who have something to offer me and to whom I have something to offer in return.
I tend not to form close relationships with leftards; it just isn’t that fun to hang around with people who make a political issue of everything.
But there was someone I added on FB for gaming purposes. She put up something about Earth Hour and as a joke (well, somewhat) I commented: “Know another good way to reduce carbon dioxide emissions? Stop breathing.”
She responded with a nastygram via private message and unfriended me.
Don’t let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya, and furthermore, it ain’t MY problem that you can’t take a joke.
I am so sick of that stoopit term “social justice” or any other lame azz “Justice”.
I usually tell my friends justice can be had in the courts or at the end of a gun. One keeps order the other keeps the peace.
They hate that and then always, always, always follow that with my lack of respect and compassion.
Get a dog if you want respect, see a nurse if you want compassion, the valet will provide you validation and get a life.
I’ll be your friend on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays since I’m busy on the other days
Still, there are a lot of folks we have to deal with from time to time whose political ideology has so totally permeated their lives they are incapable of normal relations.
I always tell people that they left the "ist" off at the end of "social."
To be honest, I know several more members of my large immediate family are more conservative than my father, much more really. Truth is, they would probably consider themselves moderate Republicans, but there is this visceral hate for Republicans that keeps them from admitting it.
Its just kinda tough maintaining relationships when you differ so much on politics, and when one or more parties is unable to tone down the rhetoric. It it wasn't family, I wouldn't bother dealing with it.
My condolences, but on the other hand, good riddance.
Grab a kleenex.
So? You couldn’t have drank her skinny? LOL
Now what would she want in her new constitution?? I bet she would like Gay marriage, the age of consent to be 1 day old, Socialism and all the founders that buildings (or towns) are named after renamed.
I bet she wants a tax rate on corperations at 99.999% and the rich at 99.9999%.
Am I correct??
De-friended by a liberal is a badge of honor, especially since you gave her several outs to keep it friendly.
Ha! That’s a good one.
I lost my lifetime best bud over the election debacle of 2000. Oh well, I now have nothing to do with libs of any flavor; envirowackos, abortionist, commies, homos, femmies. Life is too short, and all that stuff.
Wichita Lineman is still a favorite of mine.
I’m with you, Laz. I find no redeeming value in remaining friends with Liberals/Progressives/Communists/Marxists. If the SHTF, you can bet they would turn on us in a heartbeat even if they had previously insisted what great friends we were.
Liberal friends are good for a few laughs. After that, they become rather boring. Every conversation eventually turns into assessing feelings.
Many years ago I sang in a group - we were all devout Christians and great friends. I just recently reconnected with some of them. They are all conservative - except one has gone absolutely far, far left - to the point where he got involved in the Obama campaign and has true communist songs posted.
I also notice there is no mention of his wife, a very good old friend of mine. But there is a new honey, it seems. And a strong inference that one of their children is gay.
As you stray from truth, your life slowly becomes out of order. It’s not hard and fast, and good people do have problems, but I see it so often. As proverbs says, the blind stumble in the dark, and do not even know what they are falling over...
This has been a popular thread. Apparently a lot of us have had this experience.
Jimmy Webb and Glen Campbell were a perfect complement.
Great definition
Great definition.
“They need to save the world. Their opponents are scum.”
Good observation. But I think it’s more than that. I think the ones that get really vitrolic are the ones with personal guilt.
The most prominent time I got cut off by an old friend for no reason was the one where she had an abortion, and I had a baby, at the same time. She literally couldn’t look at me any more. When your life is together, and you are leading it right, those that resent you and hate you because you don’t make their bad choices get obsessed with you.
It’s the quintessential characteristic of the left. They hate you, because you are not infected with their own bad decisions and problems. So they look for a power higher than life and chance to shut you down - the government.
“I have AIDS and no kids because I’m gay, and you have a happy family and are well? Well, s**** you, not only am I going to make you pay through the state for me to have kids and my meds, I am going to do my best to degrade your happiness and drag you through the mud!” That’s what I see from the left - over and over. It’s a mental disease.
Lincoln is a nice little city. Not really too liberal, overall.
I wonder if your ex-friend had anything to do with the protests at the capitol last weekend, people carrying signs damning the Republicans for their “war on women”. ?
Hes a poof and I miss him not at all
I left Jersey and love Georgia... I’m in very North Ga that when my dogs get out I chase them into Tenn without breaking a sweat :)
Don’t fret about losing a worthless acquaintance, Laz. You have more REAL friends here than you can shake a stick at. Hugs!
Fat, mean and liberal is no way to go through life, girl.
Something I've noticed over the years is that these guys use the words 'I hate' more than any of my other friends.
100% props to you (and your Higher Power) for overcoming and getting clean. One of my fave uncles stayed clean for over 40 years the same way. Blessings to you.
I had a similar thing happen on Facebook.
I lost track of buddy of mine in high school. He was one of the smartest people I've ever met-- a real math genius, and he and I used to play D&D and Star Trek and other role-playing games, along some other guys of the same bent. This was 27 years ago now.
So, a year ago, we re-connected on Facebook. We immediately got started talking about philosophy, religion and politics, because I post a lot of the stories I read on FR on my Facebook page.
This guy--a preacher's kid-- was borderline atheist in high school, and pretty hard-drinking, but now he was a full-blown moonbat, global warming prophet of doom, and hated anything and everything to do with the Tea Party, Christians, Jews, and anything else even connected with God. Political conservatives? The very devil, in his opinion.
I finally asked him to unfriend me after he threatened to cross four states to come to my house and "kick my ass". (What set him off was a post on public school teachers molesting kids.)
I can't change him, so it's best not to interact with people like that.
I appreciate your posts, Laz, and have for years.
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