Photo, License Frame: 'Grudges Don't Hurt Them'
Posted on 01/11/2017 12:33:22 AM PST by CharlesOConnell
Milo Milburn, "Letting go of grudges". Weds Jan 11 at 8 PM Eastern EWTN Live Streaming PLAYER Click Here
Photo, License Frame: 'Grudges Don't Hurt Them'
"It happened 60 years ago. She's been dead for 10 years. She's not coming back. Get over it."
My Aunt Mary held a grudge against my Mom, Betty.
Mary blamed Betty due to her belief Betty had caused their parents to split up for a few months.
Mary was in a faction in her own mind, with one parent in her mind against another.
IT HAPPENED IN 1932!
Betty died in 1989. Mary was holding it against Betty in her heart in 1999. She probably thought about her grudge obsessively.
EWTN Live, Wednesday, January 11, 2017, Professor Milo Milburn reveals new research that shows how letting go of grudges helps people obtain both better mental and physical health. Hosted by Fr. Mitch Pacwa.
| Wednesday, January 11 at 5:00 pm | |
| Wednesday, January 11 at 10:00 pm | |
| Sunday, January 15 at 1:00 am |
Have a personal relationship with the Master of Forgiveness, Jesus.
"Jesus, please help me to forgive for this second."
(In five seconds, when you have un-forgiven...)
"Jesus, please help me to forgive for this second."
(After a while, in five minutes, when you have again un-forgiven...)
"Jesus, please help me to forgive for this minute."
...Hour...Day...Week...Month...Year...
http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10942-015-0210-2
Over the last 20 years, literature on the psychology of forgiving has burgeoned. Despite this, forgiveness literature from the rational-emotive behavior therapy (REBT) perspective has been rare. This is unfortunate, given the elegance of the REBT model and that Ellis touched favorably upon forgiving as far back as 1961. The REBT model is dialogued with the works of Enright and Fitzgibbons (Helping clients forgive. American Psychological Association, Washington, 2000; Forgiveness therapy. American Psychological Association, Washington, 2015) with reference to others. Among recommendations are: (1) using and researching REBT regarding forgiveness; (2) focusing on unforgiveness-reduction when clients cannot contemplate forgiving; (3) recognizing an “Acceptance continuum” of healthy responses from “non-forgiving” to “forgiving”; (4) considering use of REBT with combined unforgiveness and trauma, as well as exploring parallels between the two phenomena; (5) giving primacy to “Unconditional Self Acceptance (followed by Unconditional Life and Other Acceptance); and (6) complementing forgiveness outcomes studies with phenomenological research. The author concurs with Ellis and Harper (A guide to rational living. Wilshire Book Co., Hollywood, 1973/1961) that: “To err is human; to forgive is to be sane and realistic” (p. 111).
See earlier thread with same article.
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I agree that holding a grudge against another individual can be destructive to not only the person violated but to those around them.
However, there are some acts that should never be forgiven.
Should the Jews forgive Hitler for the atrocities he ordered? No.
There are some events that should never be forgotten or forgiven.
The list is long i.e., Stalin murdering 45 million of his own people, Mao starving millions to death, Pearl Harbor, World Trade Center, etc. etc.
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