Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?
If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.
Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.
2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...
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That’s true. Christie Brinkley is gorgeous, but certifiably whacko.
The only one of Billy Joel’s five divorces that was not 100% his fault, I’m sure.
No one can continue to abuse you without your permission.
Make a plan to walk away. Then walk away.
Well played, as usual, Buckeye. FWIW, my wife and I saw Prince during his Purple Rain tour. lol
You can name just about any Hollywood actress to verify that fact...
OMG, that is so funny. I never got that show becuase Peg and that crazy manx next door were intolerable and something I would never allow in my life....
Until One Day, I woke up and found myself working at a shoe store.
Never again.
Back to Vendome’s Laws, as they were in my 20’s.
Oh go ahead and act crazy. “You’re Fired!”
Everyone who knows me use to laugh when The Apprentice came on the air, because I was using that phrase since I was a teenager.
When I say “You’re Fired” I literally wipe my life of any artifacts of their existence, which is where I am at today.
I vaporized 25 years of belongings so there would be no trace of her in my life.
She can go happily KcuF with someone else...
Maybe being angry is her form of being happy.
Dunno, Don’t Care and Don’t want it in my life ever again....
This article hit every single issue 1-10...
True dat!
I got lemonade! My bride was hot and intellectually sweet too!
There is also an element of projection where the wife accuses the husband of the very behaviors she engages in.
I am touched by your reply. Made me cry. It is awful and what some others have said is amazing. But to those who say it’s easy to leave and kick them to the curb ... the onset is insidious. Then you have a child and get increasingly trapped. It becomes normal. It becomes a way of life. And it is easy to pick the same person again because it damages us (or me) to the core. It’s hard to realize that affection should not be withheld and that it is nurturing. Many abuse men with it. I have done a lot of praying and my counselor is a wonderful Christian. She has taught me that I don’t have to accept treatment but it is hard. Because these type of woman pray on men who are a little more sensitive and maybe aren’t narcissistic enough to believe we are anything but average. It has soured me on the dream that there is that woman out there who is kind and tender and romantic and a partner who wants to take care of me as a man with my emotional and other needs. And it scares me that I will never find anyone. So I setttle and repeat the cycle.
I’ve seen both men and women act like this.. They are CRAZY. Stay far, far away. I used to know quite a few women who would withhold sex from their husbands to get what they want. Pretty sad actually, it’s like they didn’t even miss or like it to begin with. I couldn’t even imagine..
Men hate it when their wife changes.
Women hate it when their husband doesn’t change.
This describes my ex to a “T”.
Hahahaha...that’s great!
I work with a wonderful woman who is married to a man quite senior to her, and apparently, he is getting crusty the way some of us guys do when we get into our seventies...
She asked him one day if he had taken the right medications because he was being a bit abrasive, and he waved his hand and said “How the Hell should I know? You laid them out there for me.”
She said “You didn’t even check? You are awfully trusting...how do you know I didn’t put something in there that would kill you?”
He paused and said calmly: “I guess. But I do fix the brakes on your car.”
Made her pause...she laughed and laughed when she told me!
...or somesuch...I think I like your version better.
SAme here, but 20 years. Blindsided. Also, following 14 months of forced celibacy.
Difference is that after several sessions with my church leaders to try to work it out, utterly failing, I prayed that if one was leaving to free the other (love wise). I realized, two weeks later, that I no longer had a scrap of feeling for her. A week after that I went to my 25 year class reunion and met the woman I’ve now been married to for 18.5 years. She truly is the love of my life and the honeymoon is not over.
We simply NEVER fight and always treat each other with utmost respect. I treat her as if I’m blessed to have her in my life. It’s easy because it is how I feel.
And she treats me the same way. And for the same reason.
And at the center of it all is God.
Guys mostly just hit. :-P
No. It’s a warning that you may be a jerk. (I’d stay away from teas, just in case. |;>p
I did just that. The gal I was seeing was great and I loved doing things for her. Then one day about a year and half in she starts telling me to stop buying things and pay my bills off, even though 1) I had no bills, 2) I wasn’t even buying things but was just dreaming out loud while checking out new toys and doo dads for my Harley on line.
Then she starts saying the same thing in front of our friends, which really pissed me off until I finally snapped and told her she had no business saying what she did to me or anyone we knew, and that she never complained when I was buying her gifts and taking her on vacations and that I was leaving!
She came in and apologized but my mind was made up. It took me a couple of months to find and apartment. They called me on a Friday and told me I could move in on Tuesday. On Sunday afternoon she came through the door I told her that I need to talk, she sat down and I said I wasn’t happy and I rented an apartment and I move in on Tuesday, then I walked out.. She called me a hundred times but I wouldn’t take her call. I came back on Tuesday morning and took my stuff. Haven’t seen her or talked to her since.
The bottom line is once you make up your mind is to just leave, don’t let their tears keep you there to listen to them, just leave...
My wife is a firm believer that women are worse than men in pretty much every way, but men act out in ways that get you in prison.
Men smack you around. Women just destroy lives. Only one of those lands you in jail.
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