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10 Signs Your Wife is an Emotional Bully
Marriage Radio ^ | 12-28-2016 | Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october

Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?

If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.

Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?

1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.

Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.

2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...

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TOPICS: Health/Medicine; Society
KEYWORDS: bullywife; emotionalabuse; emotionalbully; husbandabuse; marriage
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To: rhett october

When I started reading it, I thought of Dem behavior since Trump won. Name calling, threats, etc.


141 posted on 12/28/2016 1:02:32 PM PST by ransomnote
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To: gas_dr

The woman doesn’t always have the advantage in court. I won’t get into how I know.

Just a thought: Perhaps you would be better off not getting into any romantic relationships until you have gotten your depression under control.

Prayers up for you and your situation. God will help you if you let him.


142 posted on 12/28/2016 1:04:55 PM PST by Bigg Red (To Thee, O Lord, I lift my soul. Thank you for saving our Republic.)
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To: Simon Foxx

Oh, I get it.

Trust.
Me.


143 posted on 12/28/2016 1:07:42 PM PST by ctdonath2 ("If anyone will not listen to your words, shake the dust from your feet and leave them." - Jesus)
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To: Albion Wilde

Hahaha...that is the other video I always show to people when discussing “the battle of the sexes”. I love that one.

You know what is REALLY great about it? If you look at the crowd...it is comedy, they are laughing, but...they all know it is true.

Men and women are wired differently. Not for better or for worse...just different. I think keeping that in mind saves a lot of grief as well.

It is a liberal construct that there is no difference in the way men and women think and work. There most certainly is, and thinking as the liberals do will only cause problems (as we see every single day in real life)

For my part, I say vive la difference!!! It is one of the things that makes the opposite sex so attractive and fun for many of us...:)


144 posted on 12/28/2016 1:08:16 PM PST by rlmorel (Orwell described Liberals when he wrote of those who "repudiate morality while laying claim to it.")
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To: PLMerite; rlmorel

Having been dead, I’m already on borrowed time. The prospect of expiring no longer disturbs me.


145 posted on 12/28/2016 1:10:06 PM PST by ctdonath2 ("If anyone will not listen to your words, shake the dust from your feet and leave them." - Jesus)
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To: ctdonath2

They are victims too. If you can safely and legally take them, do so. If not, visit them when possible until formal arrangements can be made.

The first visit you make should always be to a lawyer. Know your rights.

Then stop making excuses to stay and start planning to leave.


146 posted on 12/28/2016 1:11:03 PM PST by IronJack
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To: rhett october
2, 4, 5, 7, 8, 9, 10.

Hell, it's almost easier to list the ones the (soon to be) EX didn't pull with me!

Whew! 30 years of that sh*t. Happier to be single again and dating. Never going to get married again. N E V E R!!!

147 posted on 12/28/2016 1:12:02 PM PST by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: BykrBayb

I think a lot of couples never took the time to talk about that.

Just the awareness of it is enough, I think.

When you think about it, it is a vital piece of communication information that some people don’t have a clue about.

They think that if they physically show their displeasure or anger in their actions, that is the opening of the conversation and they have fulfilled their part, and it is up to the other party to figure it out and act.

As we know...THAT is a recipe for disaster. Or, at least a fight.


148 posted on 12/28/2016 1:12:02 PM PST by rlmorel (Orwell described Liberals when he wrote of those who "repudiate morality while laying claim to it.")
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To: rhett october

Does getting angry when I wash motorcycle parts in the bathtub count?


149 posted on 12/28/2016 1:12:37 PM PST by CrazyIvan (Fidel and Che are together again, and it ain't on a t-shirt.)
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To: ctdonath2; PLMerite

Well, being dead doesn’t bother me.

It is the getting dead that I have issues with!


150 posted on 12/28/2016 1:14:41 PM PST by rlmorel (Orwell described Liberals when he wrote of those who "repudiate morality while laying claim to it.")
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To: rlmorel

Zactly

I wanted this end 16 years ago but, somehow I kept getting convinced to stay.

This is not how life is meant to be lived and I Don’t Ever want to be around anyone who majors in minor things, ever again...


151 posted on 12/28/2016 1:14:59 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway - "Enjoy Yourself" ala Louis Prima)
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To: rlmorel

That was a great post!!!! Thanks for sharing!!


152 posted on 12/28/2016 1:15:14 PM PST by musicman (Until I see the REAL Long Form Vault BC, he's just "PRES__ENT" Obama = Without "ID")
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To: CrazyIvan

Heh, that about made me spit my drink!


153 posted on 12/28/2016 1:15:26 PM PST by rlmorel (Orwell described Liberals when he wrote of those who "repudiate morality while laying claim to it.")
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To: miss marmelstein

My mother too, but my father had the ace in the hole because he controlled the money. He also ignored her as time passed, it used to infuriate her.


154 posted on 12/28/2016 1:15:43 PM PST by tiki
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To: Hardastarboard

I’m afraid I might have been like my mother but my husband played by his own rules.


155 posted on 12/28/2016 1:18:42 PM PST by tiki
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To: Tours

I wanted to be a raging Itch at that time but all day I told myself that I couldn’t be mad at him for entering the house at the end of the day. It’s amazing what menopause does to you and you always have to try to make your brain rule your emotions and sometimes you fail.


156 posted on 12/28/2016 1:23:34 PM PST by tiki
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To: musicman

That woman is hilarious...she comes from a huge Irish family, and whenever she tells a story that involves a wedding or a wake, you know it is going to be funny!

A little off subject, but...spousal conflict can make one deviate from the subject on occasion...:)

One day, she told her husband she was going to make an apple pie. So, he went out and picked a bunch of apples off the tree in their front yard, and brought them to her. She didn’t want to use them because she already had apples in mind, and the ones he gave her were small and wormy looking. So they got into a big argument, and he left the house.

After he left, she took the bucket of apples out to the deck where their pet boxer was tied up, and began throwing the apples, one by one, over the stone wall at the back of the yard. Then she went in and made the pie with her own apples.

When her husband came home, he asked if the pie was done with his apples,and she said in a monosyllabic reply: “Yep.”

Her husband went out on the back deck and unhooked the boxer so it could run around the yard, and as soon as he let it loose, it took off, jumped over the wall and returned with an apple in its mouth. While her husband quizzically looked at the apple wondering where the dog got it (remember the tree is in the un-fenced front yard!) the dog turned, ran back over the wall, and returned with another apple...and another until he figured it out!

Hahahaha...ratted out by the dog!


157 posted on 12/28/2016 1:25:52 PM PST by rlmorel (Orwell described Liberals when he wrote of those who "repudiate morality while laying claim to it.")
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To: rhett october

Wow this describes an ex boss of mine (female boss and I am also female). I have seen this type of behaviour in my female friends as well. Being a single chick who gets along better with men than with women, I can personally vouch for the fact that most women do not think they need to work at a marriage/relationship. They think their wedding ring is permanent permission to demand satisfaction to their standards. Society has brainwashed women to think that men have had it their way for too long and it’s time we push back. I truly feel sorry for so many of my male friends at the way they are treated by women.


158 posted on 12/28/2016 1:26:01 PM PST by RushCrush (Disenfrenchfried since November 2008. Re-franchised in 2016!)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Mine too.
She was wonderful for years, then I started finding out (from her) just how discusting, vile and worthless I was.
I didn’t realize I was that level of scum until she told me (repeatedly.)


159 posted on 12/28/2016 1:27:09 PM PST by Verbosus (/* No Comment */)
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To: Verbosus

Physical abuse too, which I later found out was more common than people think. Sure, I was bigger and stronger than she was, but I didn’t relish going to jail.


160 posted on 12/28/2016 1:29:52 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet (You cannot invade the mainland US. There'd be a rifle behind every blade of grass.)
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