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Women Who Humiliate Their Husbands
Had Enough Therapy? ^ | 2-1-2015 | Stuart Schneiderman

Posted on 02/02/2015 4:42:01 AM PST by servo1969

Somehow or other the word “feminism” never enters these articles, but where do you imagine that the modern habit of demeaning, degrading and ridiculing men comes from?

We are not talking about something that occurs behind closed doors. Being contemptuous of men, making them look like fools has become the new, modern way for women to attack men.

One might say that the assaults men commit against women are far more serious. One would probably be right. And yet, life is a two-way street and the feminist habit of assaulting men with derisive remarks must produce a hostile cultural environment.

To the feminist mindset men are chronically misogynist. Women who mock said men are merely defending themselves.

The men who are subjected to this form of emotional abuse—why do we not consider it abuse when it is inflicted by a woman on a man?—sometimes lash out in anger. Sometimes, they run out and cheat. Often, they simply pack up and leave.

All things considered, no man can lash out at a woman, physically or verbally. The culture is so hypersensitive to the incidence of male-on-female violence that the least hostile remark by a man will be grounds for indictment.

Since men are no longer allowed to get angry, more and more of them leave.

If you are asking yourselves where America’s absent fathers are, and if you note that a large number of children grow up without a father in the home, you might consider the off chance that some of these emotionally abusive wives have driven their husbands off.

And yet, ironically, these wives are ridiculing their husbands for not being very good… housewives.

It’s the modern feminist’s way of keeping her husband out of the kitchen. If you were confused by feminism before…

Aside from the fact that feminism has made it open season on men, these forms of emotional abuse are ways for women to validate the wonderful work they do in the home.

They are saying that their work is so difficult that no man can do it well.

Call it self-affirmation at someone else’s expense.

Heaven forfend, but enterprising young single women have occasionally tried to exploit the situation. One shudders to think it but some young women are not above poaching other women’s husbands. If they are as clever as I think they are, they do not do it by practicing the lessons they read in Cosmo and they do not do it by exposing a little more cleavage or hiking up their skirts a couple of extra inches.

The key to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pride.

Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.

Game. Set. Match.

Why has this topic reared its head?

It seems that Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler sent a text to his wife, one Kristin Cavallari in which he bemoaned his difficulties taking care of their children in her absence.

Apparently, this wealthy young celebrity couple never heard of Nannies.

Cavallari shared Cutler’s text with the world via Instagram. Ashley McGuire of the New York Post then reported it.

How much do you want to bet that Cutler risks being seriously mocked in the locker room once the new season arrives? How will this little problem affect his ability to lead his team’s offense? How many women will be happy to console the dejected QB?

The problem will not be that Cutler was overwhelmed by young children, but that he allowed his wife to make him look like a fool in public.

McGuire points out that it has become acceptable for women to make a mockery of their husbands:

It’s somehow become culturally acceptable for wives to mock their husbands, and this is bad.

Men don’t like to be mocked. Neither do women, but I rarely see a husband mock his wife, especially when it comes to being a mother. It’s a sort of sacrosanct territory that a man knows better than to stomp on.

And yet I see women mock their husbands all the time. And I don’t mean tease. I mean derisively mock and shame, to their face and behind their back.

Some women will say here—I know it because I hear it all the time—that they limit their derision to lunch with their girlfriends. Not only is this improbable but women are far less successful at hiding their contempt than they think. If a woman feels it and thinks it, her husband knows. It’s like the man who is cheating on his wife but who insists that she does not know. Don't bet your marriage on her ignorance.

McGuire remarks that one consequence of this new cultural attitude is that more and more children are being brought up without fathers. This despite the fact that some men put up with the abuse and stay in their marriages, regardless.

McGuire explains:

I’m not the first and I certainly won’t be the last person to say that there is a “fatherhood crisis” in America. A third of American children are now growing up without their dad in the home.

And while there are promising signs that those fathers that do stay with their children are becoming more involved in their lives or at least want to be, this is still an area that needs improvement in American society.

But I can tell you one way that women can ensure that men won’t help more with their kids: Mocking them when they falter. Posting their “please help” moment of desperation for all to see.

To sustain her argument McGuire linked to an article from the Daily Mail. The article, by Frances Childs, dates to 2011. It shows that the problem McGuire identified had previously been identified.

As Childs described it:

Sophie pours another glass of wine. Shaking her head, she sighs heavily. ‘He’s such an idiot. I can’t leave him alone for five seconds. God knows what sort of mess I’ll get home to tonight.’

We all nod sympathetically. ‘Mine practically blew the microwave up last time I ventured out for the evening. He’s so useless,’ says Lisa, pulling a face.

She isn’t talking about her monosyllabic teenage son — she’d never be so rude about him. In fact, although the lad has been twice suspended from school and rarely logs off his incessant computer gaming, Lisa never ceases to boast about his incredible talents and intellect. It’s her husband of 17 years she’s roundly and publicly criticising.

Childs continued:

Our husbands’ sins range from never emptying the dishwasher to being emotional retards who are criminally incompetent at childcare and let our homes go to rack and ruin through lack of interest in DIY.

And I know we are far from alone. Get any group of women together and you can be sure they’ll talk about their husbands — and it will rarely be complimentary.

It’s become so commonplace to run down our spouses that Sally Bercow, publicity-mad wife of the Speaker of the Commons, felt totally at ease painting her husband John as a henpecked domestic drudge on national television.

Gleefully informing her housemates on the trash TV programme Big Brother that she makes John mop the kitchen floor and empty the dishwasher while she has a cup of tea, she appeared to think that belittling her spouse somehow made her look interesting.

I can’t in a million years imagine men talking about us with such vindictive nastiness. But belittling your husband has become not just acceptable but even de rigueur. And what’s worse, if you don’t participate in husband-bashing, you’re often cold-shouldered; it’s as if you’re a disappointment to the sisterhood, a sad little wifey.

The worst part, Childs avers, is that women have gotten into the habit of demeaning their husbands in front of their children:

More than once, I’ve seen mothers and children in cahoots, exchanging raised eyebrows over yet another ‘job’ that Daddy hasn’t done. In sharing tales about men’s incompetence, women are coming dangerously close to normalising a corrosive and lasting disrespect for fathers that can only have devastating consequences.

Research carried out by the University of Kent last year demonstrated that by the age of eight boys believed girls were better behaved and more successful than they were. Surely these negative opinions of their gender are down to boys growing up in a culture that routinely derides and ridicules masculinity.

As we know, slut-shaming is a terrible, terrible problem. Shaming one's husband, no problem at all.

Another victory for feminism!


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To: servo1969

The Biblical admonitions are:

1) Husband, love your wife.

2) Wife, respect your husband.

Result? Happy marriage.


41 posted on 02/02/2015 6:12:42 AM PST by TruthInThoughtWordAndDeed (Yahuah Yahusha)
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To: C. Edmund Wright

“every white dude on a commercial is a dolt”

It seems that in most advertising if there’s a man and a woman, the man is the dolt. If there’s a white person and a black person, the white person is the dolt. If there’s an adult and a kid, the adult is the dolt. Pitiful what political correctness and done to America.


42 posted on 02/02/2015 6:12:56 AM PST by MayflowerMadam
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To: kearnyirish2
Same here. My mother and father were equal partners. Each worked, each helped around the house. Granted, some of the "chores" were more inside duties: laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning; and some were outdoor things: lawn care, home repair, mending fence, taking care of livestock, etc.. But if the roles needed to reverse for a while, mom would willingly help out in the field, and dad would gladly throw in a load of clothes. Neither was the servant of the other, and as a result, I learned early on to cook, sew, make a bed, wash clothes, and keep a clean house, besides mowing hay, feeding cattle, patching a roof, or stringing barbed wire. I can't help but think that level of equality made me into a more rounded person, and a better husband to an appreciative wife.

Unfortunately, I was cursed with two UNappreciative wives and I dumped both of them.

43 posted on 02/02/2015 6:14:28 AM PST by IronJack
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To: Rummyfan

Well that’s my point....American TV is bending over backwards to paint a picture that just isn’t real. It’s transparent, it’s nauseating, and it does over time have an impact.


44 posted on 02/02/2015 6:14:56 AM PST by C. Edmund Wright (www.FireKarlRove.com NOW)
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To: servo1969

Seems to me respect is what is missing here. Should be both respect each other and model this for the kids. There were eight kids when I grew up long ago very poor. But parents taught us soap is cheap, respect for them and each other, and we were to always look out for each other. Wish America was like that again.


45 posted on 02/02/2015 6:17:01 AM PST by Hattie
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To: wbill

WOW - I missed that one. That was awesome...he was white, manly, loved his family, was competent and strong and compassionate.

You may be right...this may start a trend. That is astonishing in light of what most of the commercials are.


46 posted on 02/02/2015 6:17:24 AM PST by C. Edmund Wright (www.FireKarlRove.com NOW)
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To: servo1969

Immature women try to humiliate their husbands as they have inferiority complexes that immaturity brings. They usually find themselves divorced.


47 posted on 02/02/2015 6:17:46 AM PST by CodeToad (Islam should be outlawed and treated as a criminal enterprise!)
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To: Stevenc131
After you get married and find yourself standing in a department store in the women’s section holding your wife’s purse you pretty much know what you’re in for.

I wouldn't know. Never had a moment even close to that in my marriage. My bride would never do that. I'm sorry you had to go thru that, and for what it portends....cuz as you say...."pretty much what you're in for..." I'd get out if I were you...

48 posted on 02/02/2015 6:19:04 AM PST by C. Edmund Wright (www.FireKarlRove.com NOW)
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To: Junk Silver
When’s the last time we saw a competent, confident husband/father portrayed in a TV sit-com?

Well, the newest ones I can think of was "My Three Sons" and the emotional but undeniably loving dad in "The Courtship of Eddie's Father". Of course they were widowers.

Robert Reed's problems aside, Mike Brady was mostly competant if didactic, and battles of thes sexes episodes were mostly a draw.

I never watched the Cosby show, so I don't know about Dr. Huxtable.

Geroge Burns was portrayed well in Burns and Allen. But form the same era, Ralph Kramden was the prototype of the problem the article describes in the Honeymooners.
49 posted on 02/02/2015 6:20:10 AM PST by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics)
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To: servo1969

My buddies wife said to him, You don’t have the balls to have an affair. He moved out and started laying pipe. She bitched to everyone about him. The kids bitched about him to everyone. There was no shortage. Some years later she begged him to return. Nope. She promised she had changed and would honor him. After two years, my advice was give her a chance. If she started the crap again, grab your clean underwear and leave. He went back. She has changed. She does not ridicule him. Neither do his daughters. When couples hear that type of bashing while visiting with others, the proper thing to do is go start the car, and let your wife know the evening has ended. For good with those kind of friends.


50 posted on 02/02/2015 6:20:12 AM PST by healy61
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To: Irenic
There’s no talk or fuss about this and no nasty comments being made by either of us.

Ditto. Typically, the outside of the house, along with any repairs or "heavy" (think, furniture moving, trash dumping) work, is mine. Inside the house belongs to my lovely wife.

There are exceptions, of course. She gets the trash if I forget. I like to cook a night or two over the weekend, gives her a break. And, I'll usually clean the kitchen, muck out the fridge, run the dishwasher, etc, while I'm cooking - again, gives her a break for a bit. I know where the washing machine is, and she knows how to paint, garden, etc.

But divvying up the chores isn't hard, and frankly, we don't really give a whole lot of thought to it.

51 posted on 02/02/2015 6:20:43 AM PST by wbill
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To: servo1969

I thought this was s story abut “male enhancement”. Never mind.....


52 posted on 02/02/2015 6:22:43 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: Stevenc131

I married over 50 years ago and never went shopping with my husband. Not once.

Who does that?

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53 posted on 02/02/2015 6:28:02 AM PST by Mears (there wasn't much conversation about it.)
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To: servo1969

Comes down to one thing, submission to your husband which represents submission to God. I know I am a control freak, and would have not only told Adam to try the apple but also how to get it from the tree, how to hold it, peel it, bite it, chew it, and swallow it.

Knowing your weaknesses is not talked about, but in life, a good human has to know their limitations because when they are weak, then they are strong in the Lord, eh?


54 posted on 02/02/2015 6:35:21 AM PST by huldah1776
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To: Junk Silver

Junk, Tim Allen in Last Man Standing is a take no crap, conservative Dad. Brutally in your face conservative at times.

And Nancy Travis is still great looking for a 52 year old woman.

I think the Dad in “The Middle” is a stand up guy too. Granted, its comedy but he is just a hard working dad who along with his wife raised good kids.

Both of the above are good clean shows.


55 posted on 02/02/2015 6:35:59 AM PST by roofgoat
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To: servo1969

Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.....

Married since 1973 and he has NEVER helped with ANY of the laundry, or dishes! or bathroom cleaning, etc. Even when I worked full time, then later we had three young kids, I did all the housework, cooking, cleaning...

But I am a happy retired homemaker!


56 posted on 02/02/2015 6:38:03 AM PST by buffyt (Socialism Is Legal Plunder - Bastiat... $18 trillion = enslavement of our children to DEBT.)
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To: servo1969

...the feminist habit of assaulting men with derisive remarks must produce a hostile cultural environment.

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So very true for all of the reasons cited.

Also, this assault on men and maleness has really undermined the sense of self that boys have. Over the course of my teaching career, I saw an entirely different type of boy emerge, a boy greatly diminished by the constant “Girls can do anything” garbage.


57 posted on 02/02/2015 6:39:48 AM PST by Bigg Red (Let's put the ship of state on Cruz Control with Ted Cruz.)
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To: C. Edmund Wright

Wow it sounds like these ungrateful wives are NOT marriage material! How sad for them!


58 posted on 02/02/2015 6:39:53 AM PST by buffyt (Socialism Is Legal Plunder - Bastiat... $18 trillion = enslavement of our children to DEBT.)
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To: servo1969

Betty Friedan was well-known for her violent temper.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/1348841/Feminist-writer-Betty-Friedan-brought-terror-to-marriage.html


59 posted on 02/02/2015 6:41:15 AM PST by E. Pluribus Unum (Government is the religion of the fascists.)
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To: AppyPappy

Don’t get married then...


60 posted on 02/02/2015 6:41:52 AM PST by Resolute Conservative
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